Unfortunately, not everyone is able to grow up in a two-parent household, or have the luxury to witness their grandparents celebrate their 30th anniversary. While I have no qualms about my childhood (I actually liked having two different houses I could call mine), recently I've started to think if it has had any impact on my views of relationships (even if its a subconscious one).
So, enligh10 me...how has your upbringing (i.e. childhood, familial relationships, values, etc.) shaped your views of relationships?
I live with my mother, grandmother and sister. To say the least we are one group of bitter sisters, lol. I'm so serious. Actually my entire family is made up of women who have been scorned. When I was younger (like in high school) I wanted to break the Jackson curse and dated this guy from 9th grade til the day before my high school graduation. When we broke up, I honestly thought I was DOOMED. I have never seen a successful marriage, or even relationship for that matter. I don't think I believe in marriage, because from what I see men don't stick around that long. I have tried to use Cosmo to guide me through the world of dating, but a magazine does NOT take heartbreak away, so with every relationship I become a little more understanding of the sentiments of my cousins, mother, aunts, sister, etc. Although we have PLENTY kids running around, lol. It's interesting, I can definitely see myself as a mother, but I'm not so sure I can see myself as a wife...
ReplyDeleteSimilar to Danielle, I grew up in a family of all women who were not the most enthusiastic about the male species. In my family, having a relationship, loving someone and giving your heart is something you just don't do. It's unnatural for my clan. When the topic of men do come up, which isn't often, the conversation turns sour. The relationship I have with my father is a rocky one as well. Needless to say, I don't have the most positive outlook when it comes to male/female love relationships and I find myself going into situations with men blindly, whether its a friendship or something more. I'm nervous, unsure, and overly independent at times because, after all, a man can't be depended on or trust. Experiences in college, while away from my family, will probably be my saving grace; it has helped in me realize that it is so natural to feel, natural to love, and want those feelings reciprocated. I have also learned that my negative feelings need to be put in check if I want to be different and rise above my family's norm.
ReplyDeleteyou do not want to know. by the time i was old enough to know what was going on with my mom and dad, they hated each other's guts. from what i could tell, the hatred was a result of cheating and more cheating. so i was/am under the belief that cheating is simply part of marriage/relationships until shown otherwise.
ReplyDeletelet the record show that, as of today, i have yet to be proven wrong.